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Lessons I Learned From My Dad

June 16, 2013 by Irish American Mom 14 Comments

I talk about my Mom quite often on my blog, how she shared her recipes, taught me life lessons, and the skills to live life to the full.  Today, on Father’s Day, I realized I talk a lot less about my Dad.  But rest assured rearing me was a joint effort, a partnership between two loving individuals.

My Father

Because my Mom stayed home when I was a kid, she fills my Irish story lines with ease.  She talks a lot more than Dad, and when I say a lot, I mean a lot. Her voice echoes through my memories. But when I look back I realize Dad was everything I could have ever asked for.

I often wonder if Americans think every Irish childhood is a miserable one. Much of our literature gives that impression.  My childhood was far from the typical miserable, Irish, Catholic upbringing. I was blessed to grow up in a happy home, with a father who is a kind and loving man.

And so today, on Father’s Day, I thought I might share some lessons I learned from my Dad.

 

1. Patience:

 

My father never rushes. He does everything at his own pace.  “I’ll get to that, in God’s good time,” is one of his favorite sayings.

Or slower still, he’ll get to it “in his own good time.”  We’d have nine days in a week, if my father was helping at the time of Creation.

He thinks things through, contemplates before speaking, and does nothing in haste.  He may be a plodder, but rest assured he has plodded successfully through life.

 

2. Never Write A Letter In Anger:

 

He always told me never to write a letter when angry. If I did, he advised me to put it away, rest on it for a day or two, then reread it before sending it.

If sentiments remain unchanged after this deliberately enforced breathing space, then by all means share those angry thoughts with the world. As a result I have never sent an angry letter, and lived to regret my words.

 

3. Encouragement:

 

My father is my best supporter in life, but never in a loud and ostentatious manner. He never praised me boastfully as a child. His encouragement came when things went wrong. With Dad I knew I was wonderful, no matter what.

 

4. People Always Come First:

 

When I was a little girl I crashed a chair through a crystal cabinet, smashing at least half of the Waterford crystal my parents received for their wedding. A Hummel shepherd lost his sheep as a result of my horseplay.

But my father never cared about the loss of objects. His reaction was – “Thank God she’s not hurt.”

That’s how I learned I was more important than all the things in the world.

 

5. Love Of Family:

 

My father is one of thirteen children. By the time he became a father most of his brothers and sisters were living in America and England. Even though only three siblings remained in Ireland, as a child I knew I was part of a large family.

Even if the tribe is scattered to the four corners of the world, my father maintains ties with all.  Homecomings are big occasions for our family. Dad always opens the door to our long lost cousins. He loves to meet and entertain them, listen to their Irish American tales, and share stories of our ancestors.  As a child I knew I was part of a large tribe, and that we had many stories to tell, both Irish and American.

 

6. Learn From Your Ancestors:

 

My father has spent years recording and documenting our family tree. He has traced our roots back to the 1700’s.  We do not hail from an illustrious line of noblemen, but from hard working Irish farmers, who tilled the land, built stone walls from rocky mountain fields, and above all, who survived through thick and thin.

 

7. Protection:

 

When I left for America many moons ago, my father told me to remember I can always come home. No matter where I wander, no matter what happens, no matter what goes right or wrong, I can always go back to where it all began. His words have sustained me through the years. Knowing my family is my rock, gives me a beautiful feeling of protection.

 

8. Loyalty:

 

My father taught me to be a loyal and supportive friend, the kind of friend I’d like to have myself.  He is always there for his friends and family, especially when the chips are down.  He goes the distance to help. Whether it is bringing in the hay or simply lending a ladder, no act is too big or small for Dad.

 

9. Money Is Transient:

 

My father never focused on accumulating wealth as a path towards happiness.  He believes money is transient, just “resting in your account” to quote Father Ted, before it passes through on its journey around the world. Dad taught me to treat unexpected windfalls as an opportunity to set a dream in motion, or a chance to share my good fortune with others in need.

 

10. Generosity:

 

Worldly possessions mean little to my father. I can’t ever remember him buying a fancy thing for himself. His happiness comes from giving, not always things, but giving of his time, his undivided attention, his love and his protection.

 

And so today, on Father’s Day, I say thank you to my father, for his unconditional love and support.  I am who I am, because of Dad.

 

 

Lá na nAthair faoi shona daoibh!

(Happy Father’s Day)

Irish American Mom

 

 

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Comments

  1. Pat F. says

    June 16, 2013 at 10:48 am

    So beautifully said! I’m going to send this to my son who will very soon be a Dad. Thank you!

    Reply
    • Irish American Mom says

      June 16, 2013 at 10:55 am

      Thanks Pat. I hope your son enjoys reading this piece, as much as I enjoyed writing it. We often take our parents for granted, but by composing this list I forced myself to really contemplate on what Dad has taught me throughout life. I count my blessings. Congratulations on the impending birth of your grandchild.
      Best wishes,
      Mairéad

      Reply
  2. margie says

    June 16, 2013 at 11:09 am

    What a wonderful Father you have.

    Reply
    • Irish American Mom says

      June 16, 2013 at 6:11 pm

      Thanks Margie. The older I grow the more I appreciate all he taught me.
      Best wishes,
      Mairéad

      Reply
  3. Mary says

    June 16, 2013 at 12:16 pm

    These are wonderful life lessons. My father plodded through life too, always contemplative and deliberate in all he did. Thanks for sharing a little about your Dad with us.

    Reply
    • Irish American Mom says

      June 16, 2013 at 6:43 pm

      Mary – I am glad you enjoyed these little life lessons from my father.
      Best wishes,
      Mairéad

      Reply
  4. Maureen O' Hanlon says

    June 16, 2013 at 12:42 pm

    Thats a lovely letter Mairead, thanks for sharing a very wise mans life 🙂

    Reply
    • Irish American Mom says

      June 16, 2013 at 6:42 pm

      Thanks Maureen. Here in America people tend to live life at a fast pace, never pausing to destress. My father taught me to take life a little easier, and not rush through my days.
      I think you do the same, judging by how you capture nature’s precious moments.
      All the best,
      Mairéad

      Reply
  5. Penny says

    June 17, 2013 at 7:06 am

    Good man! What a world this would be if more people were taught these life lessons.

    Reply
    • Irish American Mom says

      June 17, 2013 at 1:47 pm

      Thanks, Penny. I agree wholeheartedly.
      All the best,
      Mairéad

      Reply
  6. Aimee says

    June 18, 2013 at 9:02 am

    I enjoyed reading this tribute Mairead! Your dad sounds like a wonderful man! I especially like his philosophy on patience…”In God’s own time”- that has a lot of weight and meaning to it and I’ve been pondering on it for a few days. Thanks for sharing these lessons from your dad with us!

    Reply
    • Irish American Mom says

      June 18, 2013 at 8:58 pm

      Aimee – I think the older I get the more I appreciate the philosophy of “in God’s own time”, and have come to understand how right my father was in appreciating God’s timing in life.
      Glad you enjoyed my thoughts about my Dad for Father’s Day.
      Mairéad

      Reply
  7. Grammy says

    June 18, 2013 at 12:14 pm

    Mairead your Dad sounds like a wonderful man, and I could have learned from his advice #2…

    Reply
    • Irish American Mom says

      June 18, 2013 at 9:03 pm

      Thanks Grammy – #2 is a great one. It has saved me many times over the years.
      All the best,
      Mairéad

      Reply

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